Boat Buying Drama

[Mike Carey]

That's my story as well. I'm given a lot of freedom, and know when to say when. But to the question at hand, you gotta have a boat you're happy with that allows you to fish the way you want to fish.

[sickbayer]

The best deal I found was a 2007 21' NR seahawk with a 2008 225hp suk outboard 9hp kicker auto pilot the full works it was a done deal 38k money in hand but the dealer wouldn't give me a compression check on the engine so I walked.
I would really like to find a 20 or 21' thunderjet like I had with a v and an outboard, I finally came across one with tr1 too but I misses it as it was sold. other boats are a 20' hewescraft pro v extended transom

Wow on the compression check. Something should come up.

Just to stick to the thread topic: Does your wife or parents have a say in which boat you get? ROTFLMAO

No say what so ever! I kid you not, I love my misses and she has everything she asks for, but she hates fishing and never fish's with me and thus no say.

[jd39]

Yeah no point in buying a boat to look at in your driveway, good luck man, sounds like you're dealing with some headaches! Hope you get the boat you want and left alone to go fish how you want.
Still on my first boat and my towing vehicle at time of purchase forced the compromise, it was a 07 Corolla so had to stay under 1500lbs. Went with a 12' livie and love it, great first boat! Wife didn't care to partcipate in that purchase but an upgrade is a year or two away now that a truck is my tow vehicle, we'll see what the interest level is for that one soon!

[Norm]

Got to love the drama. I told my wife she gets to buy me a $50k boat since I got her a brand new house and let her customise everything in it. Im still waiting....

[Dan360]

Can we introduce you to kokanee? You might want to keep them.

Ha, this will sound stupid but I've caught more than a few kokes and always let them go! I gave one to a guy once and that was about it for keeping them. I'll have to keep a few next time. I have these Lamiglas Team Kokanee rods with Tica clicker reels and they are a lot of fun. I made a "downrigger" out of half of an old heavy-action uglystik and a Penn levelwind with 50#braid and a 4lb ball. Works great out of my 14 foot dingy.

The fishing is productive to you. Your wife and parents can go fish and bring it home to eat.
Did you get this fishing bug after you got married?
I am sorry to hear your story and I hope it has a good outcome.[/quote]

Fishing for me, and being on the water in general, is the best way for me to cope. I work a really high-stress job that no one understands unless you've done it. I don't talk about it with anyone and I just deal with it until I can be on my own. I've fished since I was little and it was always something I did to get away. I was normally shore-bound because my Dad didn't see much use in fishing in lakes for fish we wouldn't normally eat. I really enjoyed our days out in the sound catching bottom fish, but I always longed to explore the lakes. I'm in my 30's now and I just feel its time.

The way I see it all unfolding is that I'll thank my parents for their offer and decline. Tell them to buy a travel trailer so we don't have to pay for motels and hotels on fishing trips . I'll play dumb with the wife and get whatever I want anyway. Its not like she knows what she's looking at. That's why I always buy the same model hunting rifles, she can't tell they are different and can't get into the safe to count .

I know, it sounds horrible, but its kind of funny at the same time.

[AJ's Dad]

"I made huge compromises and paid more money for the house to shut my wife up. Yes, I speak that way about my wife because its the way its. I want her to keep her mouth shut and keep my project list as clear as possible so I can do the things I want to do, rather than constant updates to the house." ?????


Talk a little nicer about your wife and you just might see a little more cooperation.

Marriage was, is and always will be about compromise. If one is not willing to compromise, one likely shouldn't be married. Then again, a guy can't just bend over and buy a boat based on a non fishing persons opinion.
HMMM, what to do?

[Steelheadin360]

Perfect solution.

Open a Business, buy the boat for said business, get the boat you want!

That's what I did. Worked great.

But as the saying goes, "happy wife, more fishing time" or something like that

[Dan360]

"I made huge compromises and paid more money for the house to shut my wife up. Yes, I speak that way about my wife because its the way its. I want her to keep her mouth shut and keep my project list as clear as possible so I can do the things I want to do, rather than constant updates to the house." ?????


Talk a little nicer about your wife and you just might see a little more cooperation.

Marriage was, is and always will be about compromise. If one is not willing to compromise, one likely shouldn't be married. Then again, a guy can't just bend over and buy a boat based on a non fishing persons opinion.
HMMM, what to do?

Of course I don't talk that way to her FACE! Duh!

But, I do think that subconsciously, people make concessions to shut their spouses up. I'm sure she's doing this boat thing, in her mind, just to shut ME up.

[Dan360]

Perfect solution.

Open a Business, buy the boat for said business, get the boat you want!

That's what I did. Worked great.

But as the saying goes, "happy wife, more fishing time" or something like that

Hmm, with my skill-set, maybe I can open up a business painting house boats using my fishing boat to reach out-of-the-way spots?

I would love to have an outdoors related job. It just seems like no one is paying $200 a head to go on bluegill and planter-trout trips

[FishingFool]

If I knew what I know now, I probably wouldn't have gotten married either. Would have used that money to buy a slightly bigger and "better" boat.

So go you. Get the boat you want. Because when it comes to it, you're the one that's going to be using the boat 99% of the time.

[stryker17]

guess what you poor guys need is a wife like mine ( 52 years so far and still counting ) after we had sold out 21ft Campion and given up on ocean fishing (getting a little hard on me at 77) we bought a nice fully equipped 16 ft smoker craft stiletto, took it to lake Roosevelt 3 times and when we got to the dock on the last trip she said WE NEED A BIGGER BOAT....... so as of now as you can see by my handle we have a fully equipped 17 foot alum-weld stryker it does everything we want and get all the salmon we need..........would like to have gone bigger but the difference in the 2 boats is far better than I would have thought , and I was able to pay cash for everything we needed, at my age no one would loan us anything anyway............my wife will have the car packed and be setting in it before I can ever get the boat hooked up....we usually hit the water about every 2 weeks when the season is going..............

[fishinChristian]

Enjoyed your rendition, which means I enjoyed your pain, which means I should apologize I think...
Guys, you gotta marry the right gal. My wife (who fishes regularly with me) decided we needed to upgrade from our Hewes 16' riverrunner, helped locate the 20' Thunderjet (best boat I've ever been in) with 140hp outboard, top of the line Humminbird, top of the line Minnkota, soft top, etc., listened to every input I gave, and... Paid for it! I'm staying married, for life!!!

[Dan360]

I'm a younger guy (30) and its hard to find girls my age that have any value in outdoor activities. I know they exist, but its hard to find. My wife is a quality gal and makes good money ( ). Her family didn't have a lot of money growing up so she has a hard time with "extravagant" items. She doesn't even buy herself expensive clothing or anything. BUT, my family values the outdoors and I have decent hunting rifles and fishing stuff. I feel like I do enough of it for it to make sense that I use better equipment. My family still does pretty well. I don't wear expensive stuff and put all of my money into fishing and hunting.

Buying a 20 foot Alumaweld Stryker this weekend. Wife has relented

[MarkFromSea]

Congratulations! Glad to hear it all worked out.

[fishinChristian]

Grundgingly relented, or do you have her blessing? If it's grudging, the price will be higher than the space station, and all the current resources of the USA can't reach that!

Glad you're getting the boat!!

[Goldrigger1]

As much as I understand the frustration of compromise, I dislike the combative language. Young girls are taught by almost every facet of our whole society to view a home and good family as the primary goal in life. Why would any part of that be unknown by men. Accept it. They are just being who they have been taught to be. Respect a woman's dreams and she will respect yours or you need a divorce. You married for looks or you were dumb.

Granted I'm 67 and have finally learned the simple truths. I wish I would have known all this when I was 21. However, I never had a wife I needed to fight. Loving conversation with your mate seems primary for happiness. Most women like it that way.

[chongo469]

My wife has let me purchase 2 boats in the last 1 1/2 yrs and i sold the first to upgrade the second but she had no input on what i was buying.... She knows i will be the one using it 95% of the time so i got what I wanted ..... Im one lucky SOB

[Bodofish]

My wife has let me purchase 2 boats in the last 1 1/2 yrs and i sold the first to upgrade the second but she had no input on what i was buying.... She knows i will be the one using it 95% of the time so i got what I wanted ..... Im one lucky SOB

I'll second that! Keeper! And I've never met her. =)

[AJ's Dad]

I guess chongo and I are in a similar boat. When I bought my Ranger Bass boat in 2010, I told my wife that I just couldn't imagine ever wanting another boat. Then last year when I started talking about wanting something newer and bigger, she said, "Well you better find it and buy it pretty soon because before long I'm going to want to upgrade my car". Needless to say I was boat shopping the next day. She was very supportive of the new boat. It's a 20' Skeeter Bass boat but it has plenty of room for her to stretch out and read and nap on the back deck!

[Dan360]

As much as I understand the frustration of compromise, I dislike the combative language. Young girls are taught by almost every facet of our whole society to view a home and good family as the primary goal in life. Why would any part of that be unknown by men. Accept it. They are just being who they have been taught to be. Respect a woman's dreams and she will respect yours or you need a divorce. You married for looks or you were dumb.

Granted I'm 67 and have finally learned the simple truths. I wish I would have known all this when I was 21. However, I never had a wife I needed to fight. Loving conversation with your mate seems primary for happiness. Most women like it that way.

I know it sounds bad, but I tend to speak freely when I'm describing a situation to "friends". I guess I described the situation in a way that I would speak to my regular friends. To me, in a sense, people on forums like this are more likely to be similar minded and interested folks. Trust me, there are a lot more "yes dears" going on at home. But, I do think its necessary to stand up to your wife. Just because she's been raised to be a certain way or she may be biologically inflicted to be a certain way, doesn't mean that I'm the only one that has to change. I'm never one to not speak my mind with someone. Sure, it has cost me relationships and may not be politically sound at work, but I like not having to be fake.